I don’t know what’s going to happen with us. It is quite possible that this night has broken us.
I keep explaining, and talking about how I felt, what was happening inside me that night. How I was drowning. How I was trying to get you to help me. To give me friendly smile, to lack eyes with me for few seconds, to play with me a little.
But all I was getting was cold shoulder. You did not want to be bothered. You finally got a piece of ass and nothing could keep you from her.
Rejection. Dismissal. Loneliness. Disappointment. Resentment.
You yelled at me that I need to learn to share. I am sharing already. I am sharing with your wife. I am sharing with woman from the couple you used to bull for, who lost her husband and now needs you, your support. But at one point there is not much left to share. And when you share with too many people, the foundations are not that strong. It is easy to rattle them.
You keep making me feel shitty about my need for re-assurances in swinging scene. I’ve been doing a lot of research, searching for help, for answers, and apparently what I am asking is not that unusual. Many couples play by these rules. The wellbeing of their partner is the most important thing for them even when they are fucking stranger.
And that hurts. It hurts admitting that you keep dismissing my feelings from that night.
I told you “I’m sorry I was not able to handle it”, more than once. I still keep feeling guilty about it. You haven’t said once “I’m sorry if your feelings were hurt. That wasn’t my intention”. You don’t think you did anything wrong. Theoretically, you did not. You just pushed past my boundary.
You are great in checking on me when we are doing BDSM scene- you keep asking me if I am ok. You respect my limits.
But when there is attractive woman that wants to play with you, all that is out of window. My Dom, my Daddy, who is supposed to take care of me, is gone. Gone busy fucking.
When there are other men playing with us, you are still my priority. You can take over anytime. No matter how many guys are there, you are always satisfied.
That did not happened that night. You did not let me join your play the way you are joining my play. That left me feeling powerless. Powerless. Rejected. Lonely.
You knew that this is not my environment. We have swung few times with other couples. I have enjoyed tremendously some of them. I felt connected to you, it brought us closer. Those times we were team. We weren’t team that night. We were two people fucking strangers next to each other .
My self-esteem got really kicked that night. What’s worse – for the first time ever in my life, I doubted my sexuality. One of few things in my life that I felt good about, one of few things I always knew I am good at. I am still recovering from it..
I don’t know how this drama will end. When there was issue with this other woman months ago – I told you we may not survive another night like that. I am hurting too much, and I start distancing myself, because that’s the only way to survive the rollercoaster of emotions.
I am forever thankful to you for giving me adventures of my life. I never thought that my fantasies will come to life , and you’ve made it happen. I really hope we won’t lose all that, we have had great time together these three years. And there are still so many things to discover and explore.